The impact of Alzheimer’s disease or other forms of dementia on a loved one is severe. Because it gradually takes away a person’s memory and independence, the disease is sometimes called “the long goodbye”. Families are left helpless.
As the disease progresses, it is more likely that the spouse will become a caregiver than a partner. Adult children and other family members can often be of support. Everybody must accept the fact that their elderly loved one is losing touch with them and may no longer recognize them. Even though the older adult may be still living, the emotional toll it causes can cause grief.
How can families cope with loss and provide care for a loved one with memory impairment? These are some ideas that you might find useful.
Anticipatory Grief, and Alzheimer’s
Anticipatory grief refers to the grief that happens before a significant loss. This grief can be very long for the loved ones of someone with Alzheimer’s. These are some steps that you can take in order to deal with this unique situation for family members:
- Join an Alzheimer’s caregiver support group: Caring for someone you love with this disease is very different from other life-limiting diseases. You might find comfort and peace by connecting with others who are on the same journey. If you are interested in joining an in-person support group, you can check with your local senior center or the agency on aging. ALZ Connected, a caregiver forum, is a good option if you prefer a virtual experience.
- Take care of yourself It can be hard to do this when you feel overwhelmed. However, it is essential that you take care of yourself when you are a caregiver. You can break up your exercise into 15-minute segments each day. To eat healthy meals, you can use meal delivery services. Get at least 7-8 hours of sleep every night. To help manage stress, meditate or keep a journal. You will experience increased energy and a better ability to deal with stress if you improve your lifestyle.
- You can go out with your friends or alone. Being an Alzheimer’s caregiver can make life stressful and chaotic. It is possible to make time for yourself, even though it might not be easy. Even if you just want to have a cup with a friend, or go to a yoga class. You might consider other options if you don’t have someone to sit with your family member when you are away. You could have a friend visiting your church, synagogue or in-home caregiver.
- Music can lift your spirits. Feelings last even after memories fail. It may feel like your loved one has died. However, they are still able to process emotions and those feelings will always be there for them. Research shows that emotions can stay with you long after the event has passed. Both your spirits and theirs can be lifted by dancing or playing happy music in their youth while you are sitting in a chair.
- Be present in the moment and not in the past. This is the one that may be most difficult. Focus on the current situation and not what your loved one has gone through. Don’t force your loved one to play the same role as before the disease. This will only cause frustration and anxiety for you both. This journey is a chance to get to know your family members.
Support for Alzheimer’s Caregivers
A final tip for Alzheimer’s caregivers: Look into respite care options within your local area. A short-term stay at an assisted living facility can allow a caregiver to rest for a few days or even weeks. You can rest assured that your loved one is safe and sound.
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